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Anonymous said: Hey, i havent had luck with sugaring lately and ive been thinking about escorting for a while, now my question is, in the pictures i advertise with i plan on blurring my face out, but if these men ask for pics of my face and i don't wanna send them for privacy reasons what can i say to them so that they would still want to see me? Do any other escorts do this or do they send face pics to the men before seeing them?

swissmongering:

blondebombshellescort:

Just tell them “no, I will not send you photos with my face”. The beautiful thing about being an escort is that you have the power. Any client worth his salt will not ask you for unblurred face pics. Many will actually applaud your discretion. There are not many escorts who will send unblurred face photos so you have no obligation to send them.

Blurry faces are often used to game clients, either by over-pricing and under-delivering in terms of beauty, or by sending arbitrary girls to the clients regardless of which escort the client chose, on the hopes that he won’t notice since he can’t recognize an escort without a face pic.

anyway, this isn’t good for the client. a good alternative can be an fkk club / brothel where the client can freely choose instead of paying for a very expensive and often disappointing first date

Well you are in a country where escorting is legal. In the USA, escorting is illegal. Blurring the face is both for the safety of the lady and the client. I’ve heard anecdotal evidence that hotels will use facial recognition software and ban working ladies from the premises. Not to mention the stigma of sexwork in the US, which I just posted about. If I were to show my face in my photos, I’d be fired from my regular job. So no, blurring photos is not typically for the deception of the client, it’s for the safeguarding of everyone involved.

Text 2 Sep 15 notes

Anonymous said: Hey, i havent had luck with sugaring lately and ive been thinking about escorting for a while, now my question is, in the pictures i advertise with i plan on blurring my face out, but if these men ask for pics of my face and i don't wanna send them for privacy reasons what can i say to them so that they would still want to see me? Do any other escorts do this or do they send face pics to the men before seeing them?

Just tell them “no, I will not send you photos with my face”. The beautiful thing about being an escort is that you have the power. Any client worth his salt will not ask you for unblurred face pics. Many will actually applaud your discretion. There are not many escorts who will send unblurred face photos so you have no obligation to send them.

Text 2 Sep 6 notes

Anonymous said: How do you deal with the issue that American society looks down on what you do? It has to take a toll on you to carry around a stigma, even in secret.

How do I deal with it? Well, to be honest, I choose not to think on it too much because it just makes me angry. I wish I could change things but sometimes it seems like an insurmountable goal. Hell, I can’t even tell my family so how could I make a change in the community?

I guess what bothers me the most is that sexworkers are often seen as subhuman. There are some hobbyists in my area that love to say “well, what do you expect, she’s just a whore?” That phrase is enough to send me into a rage. Being “a whore” does not define a person. It’s a facet of that individual. I know escorts and strippers who are lawyers, nurses, financial analysts, managers. Even if a sexworker isn’t those things, he or she is still a daughter/son, could be a mother/father, sister/brother. Just because a person is a sexworker does not mean they have no value.

What is so disturbing to me is the lack of respect. I think every human deserves a minimum amount of respect. You can never know where someone has been or what they’ve had to deal with. I often get graced with a lot of respect because patients and family members are grateful for what I have done. But once I step foot into the sexwork arena, it’s instantaneously stripped away.

Once, when I was a stripper, another dancer fell off the stage right in front of me. She was drunk and split a table clean in half with her head. I went over to her and immediately stabilized her neck. I told the bouncer I was a nurse and we needed to call for an ambulance. Her literally picked me up, pushed me away, and said “oh yeah, and I’m a flying monkey”. Meanwhile a customer who was “a doctor” told her she could go back to work. It was a miracle she was fine but it really demonstrated the myth that sexworkers are not capable of doing anything else because they have no intelligence.

Video 2 Sep 23,742 notes

personality-split:

sugar-nextdoor:

Universities across Japan are beginning to offer balanced breakfast options for only 100 yen ($0.98) to students so they can show students the importance of breakfast on their health and well-being.

There is a raw egg in a bowl ?????

Raw egg and rice is a common Japanese

Yeah, funny story. So my first morning in Tokyo, I went to a café and ordered an egg by pushing the button on the machine. When I went up to the counter to give them my order ticket, the guy started yelling at me in Japanese. Me being jetlagged and undercaffeinated, I say “make me the egg”. I’m sure he was like “wtf, crazy gaijin woman!!” under his breath. I didn’t order any hot rice, only the egg, and it was raw. Doh!

(Source: jeou)

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Anonymous said: On wish lists: as a client I look at wish lists in deciding who to see. Personal connection is important to me and wish lists tell me about the woman. Is it all Tiffany and Jimmy Choo? Some favorite charities? Bucket list adventure travel? I can tell pretty quickly from a wish list whether we will have something in common.

That’s really interesting; thank you for sharing your perspective on this. I guess this isn’t something that ever really crossed my mind. I suppose a wish list is a double edged sword then.

In my instance, let’s say I actually list some things specifically that I would like. A Herve Leger dress, Valentino heels, Agent Provocateur lingerie. Well there is one Herve Leger store in the whole state, there are no Valentino stores, only Neiman Marcus (there’s only one). So by saying these things, it makes me look like some sort of haughty bitch. Maybe if I was in NYC where these things are easily accessible.

I could get into the charity thing, that is a good idea though typically I support local charities. As for the travel, again, I think it makes the provider seem selfish, as if paying hundreds of dollars for an appointment isn’t enough, why don’t you purchase me an expensive plane ticket or hotel room in an exotic land?

I raised my donation and that sent the hobbyists in my state into a foaming at the mouth frenzy. I got death threats, all sorts of crazy shit. I can only imagine what would happen if I put some of these things on my wishlist.

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Anonymous said: As you are American and a nurse I'm intrigued as to your view of circumcision? Over here in the UK we (as in our opinions) consider it sexual assault whereas in America it's normal and the foreskin is deemed unnatural. Where do you stand?

Well, my opinion is not that it is assault. Because to me, assault occurs because someone wants to harm someone else. I don’t think any parents have that thought when making the decision to circumcise their child. If it was assault, what about all those parents that pierce their child’s ear or give them a bad haircut because they don’t want to deal with tangled hair? No child will consent to being poked with a needle for a vaccine, so is that assault? I mean, it’s a slippery slope.

Furthermore, I think many circumcision abolitionists try to paint it as some gruesome and horrifying procedure. I’ve seen circumcisions while in nursing school and it was no big deal. The physician does a nerve block and it’s over in less than 5 minutes. The baby barely makes a peep. Which is very different from female circumcision where it’s typically done with no anesthetic, shoddy equipment and they whole clitoris is removed, sometimes the labia are sewn together.

The essential function of a penis does not change when the foreskin is removed. In fact, there is some evidence that points to a benefit. There are less frequent UTIs in childhood and there may be less of a risk in terms of harboring and spreading STDs. Furthermore, if there becomes an issue later in life and the foreskin needs to be removed, it can cause a host of problems. I had a patient while in the clinic who had three circumcision revisions (he was in his 80’s and didn’t have his first circumcision until he was in his 80’s due to urinary issues). Men with foreskins also need to be aware that they are more likely to have pearly penile papules which can be mistaken for HPV.

I guess I would have to say that I personally prefer circumcised men and I would circumcise my male infant. This is all my opinion and if someone else has a different opinion, I have no issue with that. My biggest beef is with parents who circumcise their child and then do not know how to take care of it properly. Through sexwork, I’ve seen many males who cannot fully retract their foreskin, sometimes barely at all. That is not normal in adulthood can cause UTIs, balanitis, and there is a higher risk for penile cancer.

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Anonymous said: Do you have a wish list on your website? If so, do people ever actually buy you stuff. I'm thinking about adding one to my site, but I don't want to seem materialistic (though I kind of am lol.)

Yes and no. I don’t have an actual gift page on my website. I do have a little blurb about it in my FAQ. I’m not certain how many gentleman actually read my FAQ section, however. Basically I list a few things that I like- giftcards to certain retailers, red wine, books, chocolates. I don’t actually put specific things that I want on there.

I do receive gifts but typically gentleman would rather give me extra cash, it’s probably more convenient that way. I would say the gift I receive most often is chocolates. Other times I’ve received giftcards for a bookstore in my area, a necklace and earring set, lingerie, spa gift certificates, and bottles of wine.

I guess I don’t care about gifts that much so I’d probably never add a separate page for it to my website. The only reason I put a gift blurb on there is because most high end ladies have a note on gifting. Personally, I’d rather they just come back and book me again rather than give me a gift. So you can definitely add something to your site but I probably wouldn’t be overly specific with what you want, that may seem a bit much.

Text 2 Sep 25 notes

thespiritualslut:

What songs make you want to fuck (— depraved, vicious, filthy)?

Closer- NIN, Satisfy-Nero, Crazy Bitch- Buckcherry, Dev- In the Dark, Crave You (Adventure Club Remix) - Flight Facilities, Adrenalize- In This Moment, 전화기를 꺼놔 Turn Off Your Phone- Jay Park, Birthday Sex- Jeremih, Motivate- Kelly Rowland, Skin- Rihanna, Recovery- Kosheen, Portishead- Glorybox, Ladi Dadi [Part 2]- Steve Aoki ft. Wynter Gordon, Dirty Talk- Wynter Gordon, Bad Girlfriend- Theory of a Deadman, Nana- Trey Songz

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Text 2 Sep 17 notes Oh my favorite, waking up to annoying clients

Client #1 emailed me at 1:00 am wanting to see me today. He wanted to schedule a duo next week but he saw on my calendar I’m coming to his city today. No, book in advance for chrissakes.

Client #2- Sends me a P411 request about getting together this week, never seen him before. In the spot where he can free text, he writes “I love bjs and kissing!!!” Then I notice he’s Indian. Preparing to get my face eaten off and deal with a weird penis (there is something about a penis with an intractable foreskin that freaks me the fuck out, it’s not natural).

Client #3- He sends me a P411 request. The title is in all caps. He says “when can we get together? I’m still trying to see you”. Well okay there schnookums, EVERY fucking time you message me, it’s with 30 minutes notice. My pussy is not Jimmy Johns, I can’t be there so fast you’ll freak.

Link 1 Sep 10 notes So this guy wants a four hour date...»

socalseductress:

That begins at 8 a.m. and is an incall. Now, that’s not usually a problem, but I usually assume a four hour date is like a dinner date. I’m not quite sure I want to spend four hours straight in bed with a guy, especially first thing in the morning. I know I could if I had to, and a four hour date…

I wouldn’t offer him an option. I’d just say “I’d be happy to see you for four hours. But please know that it is required for part of our time to be in public. I’d love to have a leisurely breakfast!” I’ve never been in the situation where a gentleman wanted a four hour morning appointment but I always go out for my evening appointments of that length, so it should be the same. And as you mentioned, I don’t think it’s realistic to be in the room that whole time. Even if you broke up the time with a shower and massage, it’s still way too long.


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